A Story About Calmness, Patience and Respect

WHY WOULD I WAIT?

Have you ever been in any of these situations before? 

1. You waited in a queue for so long in a grocery store when paying for your items.

2. You experienced waiting for a long queue in the coffee shop where it really felt like forever to prepare the same coffee you had been ordering for decades at the same coffee shop.

   
   

3. A ten minute waiting period for your food to be served at the restaurant. 

4. A twenty minute wait to be seated at your favourite pub. 

5. A customer service on the phone who put you on hold for like half an hour. 

6. Maybe an hour wait at the reception area at the only clinic in your community before the doctor call your name. 

7. Perhaps, it takes too long for the dinner to be cooked with either your mum or dad is preparing the food in the kitchen after a long day at work. 

8. You may had been stuck in the traffic jam for two hours on the road on your big day. 

9. A package delivery which was delayed for 2 days. 

10. Your parents asked you to help your younger brother or sister on his or her math assignments that you are good where eventually you missed your friend's party. 

11. It took 5 years before you and your wife had your first born child. 

12. Your original flight schedule was cancelled and awaiting for the next best one. 

13. It took three times before you finally past the exam. 

14. Your worried about your youngest child for not walking at the age of 15 months. 

15. The car in front you drives way too slow compared with your speed and you call him or her – a Sunday driver. 

No doubt, you might be tempted to add more on this list for sure. 

Isn't annoying? Very frustrating right? Well imagine, most likely all of us experienced at least one of these events once in our life. 

Whoa! Hold on right there buddy! 

Let's pause for a while here. 

While a number of times, our patience is being put into test when placed in these kind of situations. On occasions, some of us loose temper. Typically, our mind generates some ugly feelings that somehow disable our ability to think logically. Hindering our capability to reason properly. These compelling negative emotions effectively nullifies warm impressions and other positive conceptions. During this state, our mind self-justifies and convince us to fabricate wrong assumptions which are beyond dispute.

Alternatively, if we deliberately give ourselves the chance to basically contemplate well so we become more aware and receptive to the positive views, in effect, our mind will incredibly constructs bright outlook. This will create an opportunity to produce a more meaningful mental picture. A compelling desire to be more considerate to others. 

It is best when we control our temper and keep calm. 

There was this one day when I still live in Singapore. I was ordering a meal from one of the famous fast food chains. I was at the front counter putting my order . After getting my complete order, the food counter attendant politely informed me that part of the meal is not ready yet and that I have to wait. I was invited to be seated and they offered to bring the fresh foods in time to my table. He further explained the reason why I would have to wait but I was basically pre-occupied, hungry and tired back then. So eventually my mind was not so welcoming to attentively listen to the rationale behind. I didn't argue at all nor didn't make any scene. I was simply not in the mood to say anything so I just nodded back. Subsequently, the customer service, handed me my food tray with drinks on it, a straw and some napkins. I moved along and grabbed a seat. I went to the condiments area to grab some ketchup for myself. While being seated waiting for the food, I do realized at the time that I did felt disappointments and satisfactions. I did expect that my food could been served the moment I paid the meal instantly. Indicatively, my mind speculated with random not so good thoughts. Later then, my food was served and freshly cooked. I was happy. I took a chance to have a quick chat to the person who served my order to know more about the long wait. The server eagerly shared with me that their team is going through management changes and that their crews are mostly trainees.

Fast forward, I experienced to work in a fast food chain years later. I worked as a front counter, a kitchen/back crew member and a manager on the same fast food chain, not literally at the same store and on the same country. Anyhow, I faced the same painful circumstances that same crew member had with me even worse I guess. At one point, I was confronted by a customer complaining about his coffee not stirred well on his claim that he waited for 20 seconds for his order only to get trash coffee. There was this another drive thru customer who would looked at me for seconds without saying anything perhaps suggesting if we followed the instructions exactly what he said when he put his order on. He has the habit of yelling at me to be honest. Typically this guy would order a medium size coffee in large cup doubled with another large cup, with sugar, where he would repeat the same order for at least three times to ensure we got it right. He would also murmur that he has been ordering the same coffee frequently at the different store. Then he would pause and add, - "BUT!" (in a much louder voice). He would then exclaimed, MAKE SURE THAT THE SUGAR IS ON THE SIDE. Put a little bit splenda on my coffee.

Furthermore, I would not focus more on the negative events here, rather I would highlight the best possible approach the we could have done or we would do better when face with these situations. For example, I could have been more understanding, kinder and considerate. As they say, put yourself into other shoes. It's bizare but, for me, hypothesizing gloomy outlook in mind could also be an indication of disrespectful. I felt like it's similar to looking down on someone. 

Actually, when we are patient and calm while waiting for something or someone, it creates an opportunity to help us grow as a person. We can take advantage of that opportunity to mold us into becoming a much better version of ourselves by assessing our behaviour on the spot so can we act in a much better manner. 

That seemingly impossible to remain compose, and considerate to others is achievable when we put an effort to examine our inner selves and swallow our pride. It's easier said than done, I know. But it is always best to do the right thing for others, unselfishly. 

This reminds me of this wonderful bible verse that I would love to share with you. And you too as well would love this.. It's from the Book of Ecclesiastes 7:8-9 and another one from the Book of Proverbs 14:29. Both scriptures compliments each other resonating the value of patience and calmness. 

Ecclesiastes 7:8-9 NIV

The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride. Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.

Proverbs 14:29 NIV

Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.

Hope this article brought you a positive perception in life as you move forward on your unique amazing journey. It is always nice to be Calm, be Patient and Show Respect to Others. 

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This is Romwar and this is my story..